ROBERT PACZKOWSKI

COUNSELLING IN Polesworth, Tamworth & online

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My Approach

As a humanistic person-centred counsellor, I trained in this approach and believe the person-centred way of being in life in a holistic capacity. Counselling that values and provides acceptance for a person is an integral part of this theory and offers key core conditions for the therapeutic relationship, such as congruence- being genuine, open, unconditional positive regard, empathic, understanding and non-judgemental. 


I believe that everyone has the answer within themselves to resolve situations and problems that they are facing. No matter how difficult it might seem, through exploring the issues together with a shared value and belief, the answers and strength can be found from within yourself. Taking time to understand your true needs is a vital component of this shared experience, as is confidentiality.

faqs

Person-Centred Therapy

A person-centred, humanistic counsellor is a non-directive therapist who views you as the expert on your own life. Rather than offering clinical advice, I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to help you explore your thoughts and find your own solutions to personal challenges. This approach rests on the idea that every individual has an innate drive toward growth and fulfilling their potential.

The Core Conditions

 

  • Empathy: I truly understand your internal world and see things from your perspective.
  • Unconditional Positive Regard: You are accepted completely without judgment or criticism.
  • Congruence: I am genuine, authentic, and transparent with you. 
  • What to Expect in a Session
  • Client-led Pace: You decide what to bring to each session and what you want to discuss.
  • Active Listening: I will listen deeply, reflect your feelings, and help you untangle your thoughts without dictating your actions.
  • Self-Exploration: Over time, you will build greater self-awareness, improve your self-esteem, and learn to trust your own instincts. 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

CBT helps you to learn more helpful ways of thinking and reacting in everyday situations. Changing how you think and what you do can help you to feel more in control of your life. CBT focuses on your current challenges rather than on your past experiences. It aims to improve your state of mind by teaching you to spot the links between your thoughts, actions and feelings. When doing CBT, we work together to find new ways of dealing with problems and set goals for what you want to change. 


What to expect in a session

C stands for ‘cognitive’ (what you think) – In CBT, you learn to notice when you are thinking negatively and work to challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts, 

B stands for ‘behaviour’ (what you do) – Your behaviour is what you do and how you act. CBT can help you to deal with things you have been avoiding or have fears around. When doing CBT, you might keep a daily diary of activities and set goals to try things that you are afraid of doing. Writing down your goals and actions can give you a sense of achievement and help you to mark your progress.

T stands for ‘therapy’ (what you learn) – Through CBT, you learn new skills that you can then practise as ‘homework’. You can continue to practise these skills after counselling finishes, which can give you the tools to stay well-balanced in the future.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need therapy?

Only you can know if you need therapy, but it won’t work unless you want it. Sometimes those close to us might suggest that we consider it.  Many clients view therapy as an investment in their future. Counselling enables you to feel properly listened to and understood, which can be transformative. 

How many sessions do I need?

Every person is unique with different needs. I tailor my therapy specifically to the individual, and we regularly review your progress. We can continue with therapy sessions until you eventually get to a point where you feel you no longer need help; it is your decision. 

What areas do you help people with?

Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Cultural challenges, Depression, Gender & sexuality issues, LGBTQ + Immigration, Identity struggles, Obsessions, Relationships, Self-esteem, Self-harm, Stress, Substance dependency, Trauma, Work-related issues.

Is therapy confidential?

Yes, your sessions are confidential. Please note, however, that under certain circumstances I have ethical and statutory obligations to protect the safety of children, others and yourself. In rare cases, this might mean sharing information with other health professionals.

What happens during our therapy sessions?

Every client’s journey through therapy is unique, especially with relationship-based approaches such as person-centred therapy. Over time, we will develop a strong and trusting connection, which will allow you to become ever more confident in your capacity to make sense of your difficulties and decide the best way forward.  Change can happen very rapidly; it depends on the individual.

Is online therapy right for me?

Online counselling sessions are a highly effective and convenient way of undergoing therapy if life is too busy or difficult to meet in person at my private practice therapy room. Make sure your privacy is protected and that you will not be disturbed. Find a quiet space you can relax in and check that there is a fast internet connection.  I use the secure platform Zoom, and you are sent a link prior to each session to access the virtual therapy room. 

Get in Touch

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.


You can also call me on 07936 988571 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.

All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential.

“I saw Robert for 22 sessions as part of a recovery from a manic bipolar episode in conjunction with my psychiatrist and GP. He was able to help me understand my mental experiences in a human way in terms of stress and trauma based from some negative work and family experiences.

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His kindness and engaging manner helped me through some very difficult times and at the end of the sessions I felt I had not only learned a great deal about my manic experience but also felt stronger and more resilient to face life. I also more importantly understood more clearly what I could no longer tolerate, such as my stressful job as a medical doctor and some toxic family relationships. Thank you so much Robert”

N.S.

“At first, I was sceptical that counselling sessions would assist me and help with issues in my life, Robert made me feel at ease immediately and I felt extremely comfortable talking about my life and issues within it. After 10 sessions I feel more empowered to cope with whatever life has to throw at me, it has helped regain my confidence and re-establish my identity.”

S.B.

“I really appreciate all of our sessions as you’ve helped me thorough some very challenging times ”

R.E.

“If you are uneasy or scared about counselling give Robert a try. He is very understanding person who not judge you are or the choices you have made. He is very empathic and helps you to cope with things that happened in the past helps to rebuild the future. Robert helped me so much; he is worth taking that first step.”

T.W.

“ I have been visiting Robert for just over 6 months and I cannot recommend him enough. I initially sought help when I was in a dark place and Robert instantly put me at ease. You enter a non-judgmental space, a relaxed space...

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He helped guide me back onto the right path and now, 6 months later. I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I am at peace with myself and excited by my future.

I truly thank Robert for allowing me to find and accept myself again.”

A.D.

“ I found our sessions very helpful as they allowed me to discuss my worries in a non-judgmental atmosphere. You were kind and a good listener and as the sessions progressed,..

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I was able to put all my problems in perspective with some sound and useful advice from you. I would whole heartedly recommend you to anyone and would not hesitate to contact you again should the need arise. Many thanks.”

C.T.

“ Robert, I can’t thank you enough for all your help during our phone sessions. When I first spoke to you, I felt so lost and overwhelmed with life but after speaking to you I have discovered new things about myself and now have greater understanding for why I feel worried or anxious...

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You’ve helped me to unpick past, traumatic memories and understand why I may think the way that I do. I’ve been able to think clearly for the first time in a long time and remind myself that it’s ok and it’s ok to be me and not have to be perfect. I really feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Thank you so much again and I wish you all the best for the future.”

E.P.

“ Robert has been very professional, thorough, supportive and understanding during these five sessions.

I was in a very negative and bad state mentally that I was considering self-harming thoughts and that slowly changing in positive direction. Robert has listened and has gave me the moral support. ”

H.A.

“ Czułam, że pracuje z osobą profesjonalną, spokojną i umiejącą słuchać. Uczestniczyłam w 10 sesjach, pracując nad skutkami przemocy domowej. Niezwykle sympatyczna, empatyczna osoba, ktorej warto powierzyć swoje przemyślenia.”

L.S.

“ Terapia pomogła mi troszeczkę zrozumieć jak trzeba sobie powoli poradzić, bo to jest bardzo długi proces, abyśmy otrząsnęli się z traumy po stracie bliskiej osoby. Jestem bardzo wdzięczny za wsparcie podczas trwania naszych spotkań i uważam osobiście ze właśnie taka specjalna pomoc dla osób potrzebujących jest bardzo ważna.”

W.Sz.

“ 12 tygodniowa terapia pomogła mi zrozumieć mechanizmy mojego zachowania i umiejętne prowadzenie rozmowy przez pana Roberta doprowadziło mnie mnie do odpowiedzi na ważne tematy w moim życiu...

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Ten ‘’lekarz dusz’’ (tak go nazywam) słucha co mam do powiedzenia, nie ocenia, nie krytykuje i czułam się na tych spotkaniach bardzo komfortowo, a to pozwoliło mi się totalnie otworzyć. Polecam pana Roberta i terapie... to naprawdę działa.”

O.S.

“ A truly transformative experience

After six months of regular sessions, I can wholeheartedly say that working with Robert Paczkowski has been one of the most meaningful journeys of my life. His calm, respectful, and attentive presence created a safe space where I could open up with honesty - even when it felt vulnerable...

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Throughout our work together, I not only gained clarity and self-awareness, but also something deeper: trust. Trust in myself, trust in the therapeutic process, and even a renewed trust in other people.

He never rushed the process or offered surface-level fixes. Instead, his guidance helped me find my own direction with more strength, maturity, and confidence. I now face life's transitions with a steadier heart.

I truly recommend him to anyone who is not just looking for answers - but ready to grow.”

D.V.

“ I have been visiting Robert for just over 6 months and I cannot recommend him enough. I initially sought help when I was in a dark place and Robert instantly put me at ease. You enter a non-judgmental space, a relaxed space...

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He helped guide me back onto the right path and now, 6 months later. I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I am at peace with myself and excited by my future.

I truly thank Robert for allowing me to find and accept myself again”

A.

“ I found our sessions very helpful as they allowed me to discuss my worries in a non-judgmental atmosphere. You were kind and a good listener and as the sessions progressed, I was able to put all my problems in perspective with some sound and useful advice from you. I would whole heartedly recommend you to anyone and would not hesitate to contact you again should the need arise.”

Many thanks Catherine.

“ Robert, I can’t thank you enough for all your help during our phone sessions. When I first spoke to you, I felt so lost and overwhelmed with life but after speaking to you I have discovered new things about myself and now have greater understanding for why I feel worried or anxious...

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You’ve helped me to unpick past, traumatic memories and understand why I may think the way that I do. I’ve been able to think clearly for the first time in a long time and remind myself that it’s ok and it’s ok to be me and not have to be perfect. I really feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Thank you so much again and I wish you all the best for the future.”

Ellie

“ These meetings have helped me a lot and very supportive thorough all the time. I know I can talk all about my feelings with no shame.”

Ula

“ Nie spodziewałem się że ukończę wszystkie 6 sesji. To było pozytywne doświadczenie dla mnie. Czuję się odrobinę lepiej po ukończeniu 6 sesji.”

Konrad

“ Jestem bardzo zadowolona z przebiegu terapii prowadzonej przez p. Roberta. Spotkania odbywają się w przyjaznej, bezpiecznej atmosferze a sposób prowadzenia rozmowy pozwala mi lepiej rozumieć siebie i swoje emocje...

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Czuję że terapia przebiega zgodnie z moimi oczekiwaniami i przynosi realne efekty- zauważam postępy w swoim zachowaniu i samopoczuciu psychicznym.”

Renata

“ Jestem bardzo wdzięczna za możliwość 6 sesji terapeytycznych z Robertem. Przyszłam jako osoba znerwicowana, zdołowana i ciąglę odtwarzająca traumy w głowie...

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Rozmowy z Robertem, jego wiedza, życzliwość i emaptia pozwoliły mi w dużej mierze uporządkować i zaleczyć dawne wspomnienia. Robert nie tylko słucha z wyrozumiałością ale również delikatnie nakierowuje w pozytywną stronę w podejmowaniu decyzji które polepszyły terażniejszość i przyszłość. W kontakcie terapetycznym czuje się że Robertowi naprawdę zależy na tym żeby zrozumieć i pomóc rozmówcy. Dziękuję jeszcze raz.”

Monika

“ Robert is an attentive therapist who truly listens and makes me feel heard and understood. He creates a safe space where I can talk about my problems openly without feeling judged. I always feel supported during our sessions, and his calm, thoughtful approach helps me gain better perspective on what I’m going through.”

D.

“ Robert really listens and lets you openly express your feelings without interrupting and provides solutions when applicable.”

J.

“Very empathetic and humanistic approach. Good start to a journey which I am confident will help me grow to appreciate how I can become better at helping myself.”

J.

“I highly recommend Robert as I appreciated his skilled listening, empathetic approach and careful consideration of my priorities for sessions. I plan to book again.”

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